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365 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT BEING MARRIED!

#363: Movie Mondays – Love Comes Softly May 28, 2012

Cover of "Love Comes Softly"

Cover of Love Comes Softly

Year: 2003

Genre: Romance/Western/Drama

Description from www.IMDb.com: A young woman on her way to a new life in the 1800’s suddenly finds herself a widow. Now she must live with a recently widowed young man and his daughter. Can any of them find love again? 

Wife: For our last movie review, I wanted to choose a movie about marriage.  Husband suggested War of the Roses.  Really?  A cynical movie about divorce?  I don’t think so.  Instead, he agreed to review Love Comes Softly.  Directed by Michael Landon, Jr., this is one of my favorite movies.  I have secretly wanted to own the entire series and I am not a movie collector.  What do I love about it?  It is clean, engaging, sweet, and faith-based.  And, it’s a love story!  Kathryn Heigl is excellent as usual. My husband teases me about this movie.  He calls it “Love dies a slow and agonizing death.”  Yes, he is both cynical and funny. 

Husband: I liked the storyline.  The male lead was a good man.  He was God-fearing and had the correct priorities.  He was patient and he waited.  There were no explosions so I only gave it a 5.  

Husband-Wife Compatibility: 7.5 (Wife gave it a 10)    

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#362: The Rainbow and God’s promise May 27, 2012

 

I didn’t marry until I was 43.  I had almost lost hope.  I just want to tell you that love and marriage can happen to you.  Pray for it and if it is God’s will it will happen for you.

The rainbow is a symbol of God’s promises to us.

I will put my rainbow in the clouds to be a sign of my promise to the earth.

Genesis 9:13

God is great!  Halellujah!  Praise him!

 

#343: Book Review – Sacred Marriage May 8, 2012

Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas had a profound effect on me.  The message is that God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy.  Marriage brings me happiness, but not always.  If you look to marriage only to make you happy, you will be disappointed.  Humans are lacking and we all have a hole inside, a loss, a yearning.  That lacking is supposed to be filled with God.  If we don’t fill it with God, we try to fill it with other things: shopping, food, power, alcohol, etc.  If we try to fill it with our spouse, no matter how wonderful they are, they will fail.  They too are sinners.  But if you fill that void with God, and have your spouse as a mate throughout your life, things will go much better.

The book looks at how we can use the challenges, joys, struggles, and celebrations of marriage to draw us closer to God and grow in Christian character.  It helps to see marriage as a kind of ministry, and a tough one.

“This is the reality of the human heart, the inevitability of two sinful people pledging to live together, with all their faults, for the rest of their lives.”

The book asks us to use the challenges of marriage as opportunities to learn more about God, to understand God more and to learn to love him more.  Marriage should push us to be more of service and to be less selfish.  Confronting our own selfishness has enormous spiritual value.  The focus should be on changing ourselves not our spouses.  It’s about spiritual growth and marriage is just the context.  It’s an excellent book.  Here’s a closing quote:

“Just as celibates use abstinence and religious hermits use isolation, we can use our marriage for the same purpose – to grow in our service, obedience, character, pursuit and love of God.”

Cover of "Sacred Marriage"

Cover of Sacred Marriage

 

Mama’s Song May 2, 2012

This is the sweetest video by Carrie Underwood.  No matter how old you are when you get married, your parents lose you to your spouse.  You become a new person.  It is bittersweet.  

For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.

Genesis 2:24

 

 

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#317: Apologizing April 12, 2012

One thing I love about marriage is apologizing. It’s a little like broccoli and exercise. It might not be the most fun and appealing thing but after you do it you know it was good for you and the right thing to do. I used to apologize while still really arguing. For example, “I’m sorry but I did that because I’ve been so tired lately.”  It’s a good idea to leave buts out of an apology. They bring the focus back to you instead of on the other person. The whole point of apology is that you have hurt, offended, or wronged someone. You know what you did and you want to tell them. So apologize when you are ready. Know what you are apologizing for. It’s ok to just say sorry. But it’s even better to be specific. “I’m sorry for ______.”

Afterwards you may feel better but not necessarily. You may still be mad, either at yourself or the other person.  That’s ok.  But as soon as you recognize that you did wrong and how, and as soon as you can (you might have to push yourself a little) say you are sorry. Afterwards you will at least feel like you did the right thing and have taken a step towards holiness. Don’t expect anything in return from your apology. You might get a thank you, you might not. That’s not your problem or concern. You do the right thing and leave it at that.

I'm Sorry.

I'm Sorry. (Photo credit: Brisbane Falling)

 

#312: Being a lady April 7, 2012

Family of Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge

Family of Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Make sure you are acting like a lady.  Acting like a lady means you behave using the manners your grandmother would be proud of.  Men should treat you with the respect they would show their mother or sister.”

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As a wife, you should carry yourself as a lady.  Although I dress modestly, I do have to continue to work on acting like a lady and not using profanity or being crude in any way.  When I was in third grade my best friend and I loved being gross.  Because I am silly and like to make people laugh, the clown in me is always wanting to please.  I have to remind myself that as a grown woman, and an aspiring lady, I need to leave childish things behind. We are all works in process.    Here’s to being a lady!

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.

1 Corinthians 13:11