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#319: Having a functional home April 14, 2012

My goal is to have a functional home.  In terms of cleanliness that means balance: clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy.  🙂  My husband and I work full-time and we don’t have a maid.  Between errands, chores, shopping, cooking, laundry, yard work, etc. it’s hard to get it all in.  Plus, we have been working out and we do need some down time.  So we try to have a sane and healthy approach which is do the best we can!  You can’t eat off the floor in our house but it’s not too bad!  🙂

Clean House

Clean House (Photo credit: Threthny)


#317: Apologizing April 12, 2012

One thing I love about marriage is apologizing. It’s a little like broccoli and exercise. It might not be the most fun and appealing thing but after you do it you know it was good for you and the right thing to do. I used to apologize while still really arguing. For example, “I’m sorry but I did that because I’ve been so tired lately.”  It’s a good idea to leave buts out of an apology. They bring the focus back to you instead of on the other person. The whole point of apology is that you have hurt, offended, or wronged someone. You know what you did and you want to tell them. So apologize when you are ready. Know what you are apologizing for. It’s ok to just say sorry. But it’s even better to be specific. “I’m sorry for ______.”

Afterwards you may feel better but not necessarily. You may still be mad, either at yourself or the other person.  That’s ok.  But as soon as you recognize that you did wrong and how, and as soon as you can (you might have to push yourself a little) say you are sorry. Afterwards you will at least feel like you did the right thing and have taken a step towards holiness. Don’t expect anything in return from your apology. You might get a thank you, you might not. That’s not your problem or concern. You do the right thing and leave it at that.

I'm Sorry.

I'm Sorry. (Photo credit: Brisbane Falling)


#316: My husband is the CEO of our family April 11, 2012

Kennedy marriage

Kennedy marriage (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

He’s the CEO (Chief Executive Officer) – head of the family, leader

He’s the CTO (Chief Transportation Officer) – he drives us around

He’s the CSO (Chief Security Officer) – he’s the protector and in charge of safety

He’s the CTO (Chief Technology Officer)  – he buys the computers, defrags my system (whatever that is!)

I am the COO (Chief Operating Officer) – I get a lot of the “stuff” done (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.)

I am the CFO (Chief Financial Officer) – I keep the budget and pay the bills

I am the CBO (Chief Beauty Officer) – in charge of decorating and organizing (ok, I made that one up!)

And finally, I am definitely the CIO (Chief Information Officer) with all my talking!


#264: The Wife of Noble Character February 9, 2012

The wife of noble character that we find in Proverbs 31 has the following qualities:

  • She has unusual character
  • She is completely trustworthy
  • She is hard-working
  • She is wise
  • She is generous
  • She instructs faithfully
  • She is godly

When I think of a wife of noble character and the ideal wife, I think of the Blessed Virgin Mary.  She was giving, kind and loving.  She was reserved and pleasant.  She was peaceful and calm.  She was humble yet confident.  Most importantly she was godly and turned herself and her life over to God’s will with willingness and acceptance.  This is the kind of woman I strive to be and I ask Our Lady to pray for me to the Lord our God that I am a godly wife and mother.

Virgin Mary

Virgin Mary (Photo credit: Dshalock® the Libertarian Emperor of America)


#31: Figuring Out How To Be A Good Wife October 5, 2010

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One of the joys of being married is  that it keeps me on my toes.  I truly want to be a great wife so it’s a challenge for me.  I have some good role models and there’s always Proverbs 31.

In my mind there is “what’s a good wife.”  I have to figure out what the goal is.

Getting there is a whole different story.  But it’s fun.  And humbling.  And wonderful.  And frustrating.

We want so much to be good and perfect but all God wants us to do is do our best.  And pray a lot!

I am going to be the best wife I can be!


#21: Staying home and playing house wife September 13, 2010

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My husband and I both work full-time.  I dream about staying home and being a housewife.  Sometimes I get to do it for short intervals.  Like this weekend.  My husband had a work-related meeting for about 5 hours.  It allowed me to tidy up, get some laundry and cleaning done, grocery shop, and plan out the evening meal.  It also allowed me to give my husband the gift of returning to a clean and orderly home where he could relax.  The bed was even made!

God may not give us everything we ask for, but if you look out (and in) with a grateful heart, you will see that God gives us so much.  House wife for a few hours!   If you told me 20 years ago that I would want to be a housewife I would have laughed at you!  I’m glad I have changed.  There is nothing more beautiful than keeping a peaceful home for your family.  Proverbs 31 woman I strive to be!


#14: Being Part of The Married Community August 26, 2010

There are probably many blogs out there about marriage.  I am going to look for more of them.  Two that I really like are:

  1. The Marriage Project http://wittywifesmarriageproject.wordpress.com/ 
  2. The Wife Project http://thewifeproject.wordpress.com/

I can really relate to both.  They are both relatively new wives, and so am I.  They are both trying to be good wives and they both have a Christian focus.  

It’s great to have community and I enjoy being part of a larger group committed to marriage.  That’s the main reason I started this marriage-related blog: to promote and celebrate marriage.  It is a beautiful thing!