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#301: Humility March 27, 2012

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Humility (Photo credit: Perfesser)

Humility is a weak area for me and I have asked God to help me with it.  One of the things I love about life is that you get to keep growing, improving, and changing.  I really want to become a more humble person.  First I need to understand what humility means.  Then I need to practice it.  I am in the learning phase now and am starting to practice what I’ve learned.

(becoming) a woman for Him just did an excellent post on humility called (becoming) closer to God through Proverbs 6, part 2 haughty eyes.  You can check it out here.  She says that the first thing God hates is haughty or proud eyes.  She asks us to look at our behaviors such as taking pride in your gifts and accomplishments, or feeling that you deserve certain things.  We are nothing without God and all that we have He gave to us.  If we boast it should be about our knowledge of God, God’s strength in our weakness, and what God did for us through the cross.

Learn This: A personal development site for passionately learning productivity, career,
leadership and life improvement tips posted 50 Ways to Be More Humble and to Act Humbly.  I highlighted the ones that really spoke to me and let me tell you, I did a lot of highlighting.  Here are the ones I really need to work on:

  • Listen more than you talk
  • Count to 3 before adding to a conversation to make sure the other person is done
  • You are God’s creation not your own
  • Don’t boast about your achievements, let others recognize them instead
  • Since winning isn’t everything, you don’t have to win
  • Remember that you are a sinner (in other words, you are no better or worse than anyone else)
  • Know how to accept praise with a simple thank you, don’t elaborate on it or talk more about it
  • Serve others and not yourself first
  • Learn from and model the life of the most humble teachers in history (Jess, Gandhi, Mother Teresa, Buddha, etc.)

How to humble yourself in five easy lessons was also helpful.  It begins with “Humility is a tough thing to get.  The minute you think you got it, you lose it.”  Amen.  Pearls from this post include:

  • Take responsibility for your own sin for not doing so is proof of pride
  • Don’t forget who you are: a sinner, not God
  • To humble yourself you must do what is right, without regard for how insignificant that action or your position  may appear
  • to be humble does not mean feeling inferior, you can be confident in Christ
  • you can be a confident Christian – your faith in Jesus Christ makes you one of God’s children
  • Learn to control your tongue

Inner Frontier: Cultivating Spiritual Presence, also has a post on humility.  It begins with these two powerful messages:

There is a good description of humility:

“The humble, unassuming person immediately puts us at ease.  We can just relax and be ourselves in their presence, a zone of no competition, no judgment, and no fear.  The heart of the humble knows love.  Humility realizes that we are all in the same boat, all human, all equally children of the same God.”

If you struggle with humility as well, I hope these posts will help you as you strive to be ever more humble.


#83: Being Held Accountable June 6, 2011

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This one doesn’t feel very good but it’s good for me.  It’s like eating boiled carrots.  They are good for you but you might not enjoy them going down.

When you are married your spouse knows you and your struggles.  When you mess up or go down the wrong path, they should be there to point it out and say “I don’t think you want to go there.”  If you are being selfish, they point it out and you can fight it or you can accept it and realize that it’s true.  We all need to be humbled from time to time and once you get over the feelings, you can get back up, brush yourself off, and stay on course.


#80: Someone to tease me June 3, 2011

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I am not really one to take herself too seriously but I can be just as stressed out as the next person.  They say laughter heals and I believe it.  My husband makes me laugh so much.  I can feel myself healing.  If I stumble or stutter or make a mistake he is there to point it out and make me laugh.  Laughing at oneself is healthy.  It helps you to remember that nothing is really that important.  There are so few things we  do that actually have serious consequences.  We sweat the small stuff so often.  Having someone to tease me means that I keep things in the right perspective and it also helps to keep me humble and I need humility!