Vacations are especially fun with hubby. We have a few planned this year. We have a weekend and a week at the beach (2 separate trips). We have a long weekend visiting relatives in West Virgina. We have a Thanksgiving trip to visit my husband’s brother. And we have Christmas in Denver with my brother and his family.
#226: How many in-laws does it take to screw in a lightbulb? December 16, 2011
It’s holiday time and time for seeing your in-laws! Mothers-in-law. Brothers and Sisters-in-law. All the in-law crew. What I’ve learned about in-laws is that for things to run smoothly, each spouse should be the leader for dealing with their own set. It really makes things easier. If we are visiting my husband’s brother, I take the back seat in figuring out what we do, how often we see him, and gifts. As much as I want to take control, because I am a supreme control freak, I see that it is best if we divide the tasks this way. When we visited my brother over the summer, it was up to me to figure out where to stay, how long to stay, etc. Sometimes the follower spouse has to grin and bear it if decisions are made that they don’t like or wouldn’t make, but that’s ok. Neither spouse is always the leader or the follower. It can be hard enough dealing with your own family! Being let off the hook with your spouse’s family is often a relief.
What in-law pearls of wisdom have you learned?
#224: The Grinch Who Married Cindy Lou Who December 14, 2011
I often joke that a great Halloween costume for my husband and me would be the Grinch and little Cindy Lou Who. Of course, I would be Cindy Lou. My husband is a bit Grinch-like. He is not always merry. He can be a bit grouchy. And serious. I on the other hand am the “why can’t everyone just get along” type who lives in a world where hope springs eternal. We are the perfect match in that way and I’ve posted about it before. At Christmas time these roles become clear again. I want to over decorate, my husband would rather not. So you can imagine my amazement recently when I asked my husband to help me hang wreaths on the 3 windows on the side of our house. He said he would go to Home Depot to get hooks for the wreaths and asked me to pick up 2 more wreaths for the front windows. What? Get more wreaths? Am I rubbing off on him? I may have to take back that Bah Humbug hat I got him!