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365 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT BEING MARRIED!

#365: Last Post May 30, 2012

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This is my last post.  I have mixed feelings about closing.  Focusing on what I love about being married has made me a happier person and wife.  I’ve enjoyed the family and dialog of marriage bloggers.  I set out to write a finite blog: 365 things I love about marriage.  Now finding myself at the end I’m sticking to the plan.

I asked my husband what I should do for the last post and he suggested sharing some of the things I learned.  As usual, he is a smart man. 🙂

THINGS I LEARNED

1. Marriage is truly wonderful.

2. I really love my husband.

3. It’s hard to say goodbye.

4. I like blogging.

5. It sometimes takes 2 years to do a 365 blog!

6. I’m thankful for all your comments and support.

7. It feels good to keep a commitment whether it is marriage or blogging.

8. Lots of folks love marriage like I do.

9.  Blogs take a lot of time.

THINGS MY HUSBAND LEARNED

1. He should keep his mouth shut.

2. Things he says will end up on my blog and he won’t get any credit for it. 🙂

MY FAVORITE POSTS

#33 The Garage Door Buzz

#95 Sausage Crumble

#116 Inside Jokes

#133 He Lies To Me

#140 How He Does Ballet When He Irons

MY TOP COMMENTERS

Thank you!

1. Sis at Passionate Christian Marriage

2. Luisa at Live Simply

3. Mkultra at Orange Spice Drop

4. Witty Wife at The Marriage Project

5. Mother of Wonder at Labor of Wonder

6. Debbie at Shadows of Love

Thank you to God for my life.  Thank you to my wonderful husband Walter to whom this blog is dedicated.  Thank you to those of you who read and followed it!  I will leave this blog up for a while. Please come visit me at my other blog: Artsy Wanderer  🙂

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#363: Movie Mondays – Love Comes Softly May 28, 2012

Cover of "Love Comes Softly"

Cover of Love Comes Softly

Year: 2003

Genre: Romance/Western/Drama

Description from www.IMDb.com: A young woman on her way to a new life in the 1800’s suddenly finds herself a widow. Now she must live with a recently widowed young man and his daughter. Can any of them find love again? 

Wife: For our last movie review, I wanted to choose a movie about marriage.  Husband suggested War of the Roses.  Really?  A cynical movie about divorce?  I don’t think so.  Instead, he agreed to review Love Comes Softly.  Directed by Michael Landon, Jr., this is one of my favorite movies.  I have secretly wanted to own the entire series and I am not a movie collector.  What do I love about it?  It is clean, engaging, sweet, and faith-based.  And, it’s a love story!  Kathryn Heigl is excellent as usual. My husband teases me about this movie.  He calls it “Love dies a slow and agonizing death.”  Yes, he is both cynical and funny. 

Husband: I liked the storyline.  The male lead was a good man.  He was God-fearing and had the correct priorities.  He was patient and he waited.  There were no explosions so I only gave it a 5.  

Husband-Wife Compatibility: 7.5 (Wife gave it a 10)    

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#362: The Rainbow and God’s promise May 27, 2012

 

I didn’t marry until I was 43.  I had almost lost hope.  I just want to tell you that love and marriage can happen to you.  Pray for it and if it is God’s will it will happen for you.

The rainbow is a symbol of God’s promises to us.

I will put my rainbow in the clouds to be a sign of my promise to the earth.

Genesis 9:13

God is great!  Halellujah!  Praise him!

 

#358: My fave marriage blogs May 23, 2012

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Wedding Photos

Wedding Photos (Photo credit: Sean Choe)

We are quickly making our way to post #365 on this blog.  I want to remind you about all the great marriage blogs out there, especially those on my blogroll.  My absolute favorites now are:

1. Happy Wives Club

2. Peaceful Wife’s Blog

3. The Romantic Vineyard

4. The Generous Wife

Enjoy!

 

#343: Book Review – Sacred Marriage May 8, 2012

Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas had a profound effect on me.  The message is that God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy.  Marriage brings me happiness, but not always.  If you look to marriage only to make you happy, you will be disappointed.  Humans are lacking and we all have a hole inside, a loss, a yearning.  That lacking is supposed to be filled with God.  If we don’t fill it with God, we try to fill it with other things: shopping, food, power, alcohol, etc.  If we try to fill it with our spouse, no matter how wonderful they are, they will fail.  They too are sinners.  But if you fill that void with God, and have your spouse as a mate throughout your life, things will go much better.

The book looks at how we can use the challenges, joys, struggles, and celebrations of marriage to draw us closer to God and grow in Christian character.  It helps to see marriage as a kind of ministry, and a tough one.

“This is the reality of the human heart, the inevitability of two sinful people pledging to live together, with all their faults, for the rest of their lives.”

The book asks us to use the challenges of marriage as opportunities to learn more about God, to understand God more and to learn to love him more.  Marriage should push us to be more of service and to be less selfish.  Confronting our own selfishness has enormous spiritual value.  The focus should be on changing ourselves not our spouses.  It’s about spiritual growth and marriage is just the context.  It’s an excellent book.  Here’s a closing quote:

“Just as celibates use abstinence and religious hermits use isolation, we can use our marriage for the same purpose – to grow in our service, obedience, character, pursuit and love of God.”

Cover of "Sacred Marriage"

Cover of Sacred Marriage

 

#317: Apologizing April 12, 2012

One thing I love about marriage is apologizing. It’s a little like broccoli and exercise. It might not be the most fun and appealing thing but after you do it you know it was good for you and the right thing to do. I used to apologize while still really arguing. For example, “I’m sorry but I did that because I’ve been so tired lately.”  It’s a good idea to leave buts out of an apology. They bring the focus back to you instead of on the other person. The whole point of apology is that you have hurt, offended, or wronged someone. You know what you did and you want to tell them. So apologize when you are ready. Know what you are apologizing for. It’s ok to just say sorry. But it’s even better to be specific. “I’m sorry for ______.”

Afterwards you may feel better but not necessarily. You may still be mad, either at yourself or the other person.  That’s ok.  But as soon as you recognize that you did wrong and how, and as soon as you can (you might have to push yourself a little) say you are sorry. Afterwards you will at least feel like you did the right thing and have taken a step towards holiness. Don’t expect anything in return from your apology. You might get a thank you, you might not. That’s not your problem or concern. You do the right thing and leave it at that.

I'm Sorry.

I'm Sorry. (Photo credit: Brisbane Falling)

 

#309: Respect April 4, 2012

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Respect is important in a marriage.  Love seems to take center stage but respect has to be best supporting actor.  My stepfather used to say that he’d rather be respected than loved.  If I had to choose, I’d choose love.  But the point is, you shouldn’t have to choose.  Especially in marriage.  I respect my husband as a leader, as a man, as my husband. And he respects me as a woman and his wife.

A sign commanding silence and respect at Arlin...

A sign commanding silence and respect at Arlington National Cemetery, Washington, the District. (Author: David Bjorgen) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)