“If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.” Matthew 5:39
If you envision life as who’s right and who’s wrong, you see a struggle. If you envision life as a place where everyone has feelings, you see a world of humans. Last week my husband was sick, he was understandably in a bad mood, and he wanted quiet. I wanted companionship – to be myself, to share a song, to make a joke. We each wanted something and didn’t receive it. You could say that neither of us was wrong. We were just people with feelings wanting different things. You could say I was wrong because he was sick, and sick people should have a preference for getting what they want and need.
Marriage is a service to God. When I gave my life to the Lord, he took it and filled it with grace. He made it overflow with love and joy and with purpose. I am happier and more fulfilled. However, I have often been called into new areas of service, often demanding. Marriage is one of those areas of service.
So, right or wrong, to be truly a woman of God, I have to turn the other cheek. Move away from right vs. wrong. Move away from me-me-me. It’s hard. In my core I want my way. In my core there is a bossy, spoiled little brat. Luckily, with grace, also in my core is a loving God who holds that little brat until she calms down and becomes the graceful, lovely, giver of love and kindness to those around her, including her poor, sick husband.