It’s holiday time and time for seeing your in-laws! Mothers-in-law. Brothers and Sisters-in-law. All the in-law crew. What I’ve learned about in-laws is that for things to run smoothly, each spouse should be the leader for dealing with their own set. It really makes things easier. If we are visiting my husband’s brother, I take the back seat in figuring out what we do, how often we see him, and gifts. As much as I want to take control, because I am a supreme control freak, I see that it is best if we divide the tasks this way. When we visited my brother over the summer, it was up to me to figure out where to stay, how long to stay, etc. Sometimes the follower spouse has to grin and bear it if decisions are made that they don’t like or wouldn’t make, but that’s ok. Neither spouse is always the leader or the follower. It can be hard enough dealing with your own family! Being let off the hook with your spouse’s family is often a relief.
What in-law pearls of wisdom have you learned?