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#78: His family is mine and mine is his May 31, 2011

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One great thing about marriage is that you share families.  Some of you may argue that this can be both good and bad, depending on the family member.  But family is family.  You take the challenging with the good.  I have inherited a spirited brother-in-law who is a character.  Basically, the nicest guy you could meet.  He would do anything for anyone.  He’s got a great big heart and he is loud and funny and loves to cook.  I also inherited a bunch of extended family.  I attended my first family reunion a few years ago. 

My husband has inherited my Mom, my brother and sister-in-law, my nephew and a whole slew of West Virginia relatives.  Funny how families expand in this way.  They get joined through the marital union.  It’s just like the Good Book says:  “Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.” Ruth 1-4


#77: Walter and the Lawn

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My husband is obsessed with our lawn.  It’s not looking as nice as he’d like it to.  He put down seed and covered it with straw.  That was about a month ago.  It looks a little better.  There is a mean old man down the street with a beautiful lawn.  I told Walter he should ask him for tips.  But he doesn’t seem very nice.  Is there a correlation between a nice lawn and grumpiness?  If so, I told Walter he’d have a lovely lawn.  🙂

A good friend said her husand was also obsessed with his lawn.  In the past ten years they have sodded, attended workshops and bought countless tools, fertilizers, etc.  They are even on constant grub patrol. 

What is it about us Americans and our lawns?  I like them.  Who doesn’t like the feel of thick plush green grass under their feet.  But we probably go to far.  I think that’s where the competition comes in. 

I think I am going to start talking to the lawn.  Just whispering a nice “Grow, grow” every so often.  If you see me, please know that I am not crazy.  Just trying to have a nice lawn – like the rest of you.  🙂


#76: Making a Life Together May 27, 2011

One of the things you get to do when you are married is build a life together.  This can mean a lot of things.  It can mean building careers together.  Buying a house.  Having children.  Deciding where you will live.  Deciding how you will live.  And it’s not all your decision.  It’s not alway so easy to decide “Hey, let’s live as royalty in Buckingham Palace.” 

A good friend from law school wrote me recently and noticed in our alumni magazine that some of our classmates were doing interesting things.  They have big jobs.  One is counsel to the NFL players.  Another is general counsel for the NAACP.  My wise friend noted that she and I are doing well too.  We are healthy, happy, peaceful and happily married.  And you know what, that’s good enough for me.  We both have jobs that we enjoy but they are not famous jobs.  I’m ok with that. 

I asked my husband recently what his goals were for our marriage and our lives.  He replied that he’s a cheap date.  He said he just wants to grow old with me and keep on living how we are living.  He’d like to make enough money so I wouldn’t have to work (I like that!) and he just wants to not bother anyone and not have anyone bother him.  That also sounds good to me.

I continue to ponder happiness versus peace.  I used to always strive for happiness but now I would take peace over happiness any day.  It’s so much less a rollercoaster.

As we approach our 4th

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anniversary, we continue to build our humble life together in peace.


#75: Having Someone To Fuss Over May 26, 2011

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My husband hurt his arm recently so I get to ask him how it’s doing, massage it, and just generally fuss over it and him.  Occasionally he likes my fussing.  🙂


#74: Drinking Smoothies Together May 25, 2011

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Strawberry and flaxseed smoothie!

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My husband and I are trying to be healthy.  Every morning  I make fresh vegetable juice.  It has carrots, apples and ginger in it to make it more palatable.  When I’m running late, I make green smoothies.  These taste better than you think.  It’s basically 1 part green vegetable (like kale or broccoli), 2 parts fruit (like apples or berries), 1 part liquid (like water), and 1 part ice.  They are definitely green but they taste sort of sweet because of the fruit.  This morning I made a kale-apple-strawberry smoothie.  It was pretty tasty.  But after, for “dessert”, I made a strawberry-pear smoothie.  Yum!  They were the prettiest drinks – pink and green just like my sorority colors. 

Best was knowing that I was feeding us healthy things – to get us to 50 years of marriage and beyond.


#73: Celebrating anniversaries May 24, 2011

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My husband and I will celebrate our 4th wedding anniversdary on Sunday.  We are going out to dinner.  I am truly pleased and blessed to have married this wonderful man who is always by my side.  He is a treasure to me and I hope to celebrate at least 46 more years together!


#72: The joy of staying alive and motivation to stay healthy to make it to 50 years of marriage May 23, 2011

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My husband and I have a little joke.  We say that we will stay married for 50 years and then once we’ve made it there – it’s over!  Of course, we are joking.  We got married 4 years ago and we were already in our 40s when we married.  So making it 50 years will be a bit of a stretch. 

I want to get there and live as long as God wants me to.  So I (we) need to be healthy.  We need to eat well, exercise, reduce stress, etc. etc.  Yesterday we took a walk together – something we can continue doing well into our 90s!