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365 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT BEING MARRIED!

#324: He’s a Mama’s Boy April 19, 2012

My husband really loved his Mom.  They always say, marry a man who loves his mother.  It tells you how he feels about women and shows how he’ll treat women.  My husband’s Mom passed away but of course he still loves her.  I love her too even though I never got the chance to meet her.  I love her because my husband does, because she raised a great guy, and because she was a loving and lovely Christian woman.

 

#320: Cleanliness is next to Godliness April 15, 2012

Therefore, having these promises, beloved, let us cleanse ourselves from all defilement of flesh and spirit, perfecting holiness in the fear of God.

2 Corinthians 7:1

Although most of the Bible references to cleanliness deal with spiritual over physical cleanliness, I know that God wants me to keep a clean house.  With all the things the Proverbs 31 wife is doing, I know that when “She sets about her work vigorously; her arms are strong for her tasks,” some of these tasks involve cleaning her home.  Cleaning is not something I terribly enjoy but I know that while I’m doing it it’s not so bad and I love having a clean house and how it looks and smells after I clean it.  Looking into the future, I see myself focusing on de-cluttering and organizing and then cleaning will become a focus.  Of course, it’s all about balance. Cleaning is just one of the essential things in keeping up a home.  There’s also shopping, cooking, organizing, decorating, yard work, finances, etc.  All of these things need to be done.  We all excel in one or another but it all needs to get done.  I pray that I have the discipline to do all that I can and that my hands bring  balance, joy, order and harmony to my home.

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"N-R-O-G super suds housecleaning week" - NARA - 515093 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

#317: Apologizing April 12, 2012

One thing I love about marriage is apologizing. It’s a little like broccoli and exercise. It might not be the most fun and appealing thing but after you do it you know it was good for you and the right thing to do. I used to apologize while still really arguing. For example, “I’m sorry but I did that because I’ve been so tired lately.”  It’s a good idea to leave buts out of an apology. They bring the focus back to you instead of on the other person. The whole point of apology is that you have hurt, offended, or wronged someone. You know what you did and you want to tell them. So apologize when you are ready. Know what you are apologizing for. It’s ok to just say sorry. But it’s even better to be specific. “I’m sorry for ______.”

Afterwards you may feel better but not necessarily. You may still be mad, either at yourself or the other person.  That’s ok.  But as soon as you recognize that you did wrong and how, and as soon as you can (you might have to push yourself a little) say you are sorry. Afterwards you will at least feel like you did the right thing and have taken a step towards holiness. Don’t expect anything in return from your apology. You might get a thank you, you might not. That’s not your problem or concern. You do the right thing and leave it at that.

I'm Sorry.

I'm Sorry. (Photo credit: Brisbane Falling)

 

#316: My husband is the CEO of our family April 11, 2012

Kennedy marriage

Kennedy marriage (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

He’s the CEO (Chief Executive Officer) – head of the family, leader

He’s the CTO (Chief Transportation Officer) – he drives us around

He’s the CSO (Chief Security Officer) – he’s the protector and in charge of safety

He’s the CTO (Chief Technology Officer)  – he buys the computers, defrags my system (whatever that is!)

I am the COO (Chief Operating Officer) – I get a lot of the “stuff” done (cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.)

I am the CFO (Chief Financial Officer) – I keep the budget and pay the bills

I am the CBO (Chief Beauty Officer) – in charge of decorating and organizing (ok, I made that one up!)

And finally, I am definitely the CIO (Chief Information Officer) with all my talking!

 

#312: Being a lady April 7, 2012

Family of Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge

Family of Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Make sure you are acting like a lady.  Acting like a lady means you behave using the manners your grandmother would be proud of.  Men should treat you with the respect they would show their mother or sister.”

How to Find A Husband Following God’s Will

As a wife, you should carry yourself as a lady.  Although I dress modestly, I do have to continue to work on acting like a lady and not using profanity or being crude in any way.  When I was in third grade my best friend and I loved being gross.  Because I am silly and like to make people laugh, the clown in me is always wanting to please.  I have to remind myself that as a grown woman, and an aspiring lady, I need to leave childish things behind. We are all works in process.    Here’s to being a lady!

When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.

1 Corinthians 13:11

 

#310: Honor April 5, 2012

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I promised to love, honor and respect my husband.  How do you honor someone?  Here are a few ways:

  1. Speak well of them both in and out of their presence
  2. Do kind things for them
  3. Pay tribute to them (like writing a blog about them) :)
  4. Look up to them
  5. Defer to them
  6. Treat them with respect

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#309: Respect April 4, 2012

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Respect is important in a marriage.  Love seems to take center stage but respect has to be best supporting actor.  My stepfather used to say that he’d rather be respected than loved.  If I had to choose, I’d choose love.  But the point is, you shouldn’t have to choose.  Especially in marriage.  I respect my husband as a leader, as a man, as my husband. And he respects me as a woman and his wife.

A sign commanding silence and respect at Arlin...

A sign commanding silence and respect at Arlington National Cemetery, Washington, the District. (Author: David Bjorgen) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

 

 
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